What is a Granola Mom Failer? To me, its any parent who has been bombarded with unrealistic expectations of what parenthood should be, and is tired of continuing the lies. June Cleaver, Martha Stewart, Gwyneth Paltrow, and countless other TV moms make it look easy to have their acts together. Maybe its because they are completely organized, or because their kids are perfect angels, or because they can afford amazing staff members to help them. You and I both know that’s not real life, but it doesn’t keep us from striving to achieve impossible standards.
If I were more organized, or had more energy I could get more done in the day. If I study minimalism, maybe my house would be effortlessly clean and I could have more time to spend with my family. If I spent more time with my family, maybe they would get along more and not act so crazy. If I learned how to meditate, maybe I’d be less crazy and stressed all the time and appreciate my surroundings more. If I practice gratitude more, maybe I’d spend less on stuff that’s not important and I could get my finances in order, which would of course lead to a happier marriage and a happier life. Don’t even get me started on Pinterest!
See how easy it is to fall into the trap? There’s nothing wrong with wanting a good life and trying new things to help achieve it. The problem is when we fall short, or get burnt out from trying to be everything and more. When that happens we beat ourselves up and that’s what I have a problem with.
The secret I am learning and want to share with others… is that we’re absolutely going to fail at anything the first time we attempt it. And that’s OK. That’s perfect! Just because you are a FAILER, does not make you a FAILURE. Some things take time, perspective, motivation, grace, and a sense of humor not only to “get through” but to succeed.